By Lisa Bintrim, Head of Children’s Services at the Potomac Branch of Montgomery County Public Libraries
Finding the words to express difficult feelings can be hard. The following books can help kids name and navigate their feelings, while opening a door for families to discuss mental health.
Please note that some of these books deal with violence, racism and self-harm. Adults are encouraged to read the books with or ahead of their children to identify any triggers.
“A Blue Kind of Day”
written by Rachel Tomlinson and illustrated by Tori-Jay Mordey
Coen is having a “slumping, sighing, sobbing kind of day.” His family takes turns trying to cheer Coen up, but their efforts make Coen bury himself deeper in his blanket. They then take a different approach, snuggling with him in his bed and waiting. Gradually, Coen emerges from his bed—and his blue feelings—to wonder hopefully what tomorrow will bring. This sweet book is especially adept at describing the physical effects of sadness.
PICTURE BOOKS
“Mole Is Not Alone”
written and illustrated by Maya Tatsukawa
Mole wants to go to Rabbit’s party, but Mole is very shy and has lots of worries. The illustrations are split between Mole’s journey underground and the other party guests up above, emphasizing Mole’s feeling of isolation. In the end, Mole doesn’t go into the party, but they’ve taken lots of scary steps—and they’ve made a new friend with the equally shy Skunk.
EARLY ELEMENTARY
“What Feelings Do When No One’s Looking”
written by Tina Oziewicz, illustrated by Aleksandra Zając, translated from Polish by Jennifer Croft
Elegant, expressive illustrations cleverly show different ways children might feel, while simple language helps them develop their emotional vocabulary. Joy bounces off a trampoline with a wide smile and open arms. Jitters peek out from a tiny tin can under a wardrobe. Shame burrows underground, while Kindness provides shelter and warmth. The final page reminds us that we all have these feelings sometimes.
“Violet Shrink”
written by Christine Baldacchino and illustrated by Carmen Mok
Violet likes to make blanket forts and draw her own comic books. She also likes cake, music and games—just not all at the same time. Dreading an approaching family reunion, Violet finds the courage to tell her father how she feels. He initially tries to convince Violet that parties are fun, but then puts on “his listening-for-real face,” which allows Violet to share how she is feeling—about parties and a few other things. Although Violet is not identified as being on the autism spectrum, several key details suggest that possibility.
MIDDLE GRADE
“Rain Rising”
written by Courtne Comrie
Eighth-grader Rain Washington is already struggling with depression, body image issues and estrangement from her best friend when her beloved older brother is the victim of a racially motivated violent attack.
This difficult but ultimately cathartic story demonstrates how adept kids can be at hiding their feelings—and how easily they can slip through the cracks. Written in free verse, it also skillfully deals with intergenerational trauma, racism and self-harm, while pointing toward a hopeful future as Rain and her family develop the tools for healing.
YOUNG ADULT
“We Are All So Good at Smiling”
written by Amber McBride
While hospitalized for suicidal ideation, teenage poet Whimsy meets Faerry, an actual Fae boy. The two must brave the Forest to uncover their shared trauma and battle against Sorrow, the dark force that is determined to keep them from finding their way home.
Although this novel-in-verse draws on traditional fairy and folk tales, it effectively depicts the inner world of teens facing depression, generational trauma, racism and guilt.
