Mom Talk:
Transitioning Nannies

Dear Michele,

Our two year old son will be transitioning to a new nanny next month.  He will actually get some transition time with both of them around to hopefully make the change not as jarring.  Do you have any advice on how to handle this change with our son?

Thanks, S.V. 

Although it may seem wise to overlap nannies to ease transition, beware!  Overlapping nannies during a transition may actually do more harm than good.  Barbara Kline of White House Nannies cautions that when you rely on your nanny to help train her replacement, there are risks.  If your nanny has any ill feelings, or concerns, she may inadvertently color the way the incoming nanny feels about her new family.  Even if you adored your departing nanny, she may have had some undesirable habits or tendencies; see this as your opportunity to begin with a clean slate.  Barbara also stresses that it is difficult for the new caregiver to bond with the child while the departing nanny is still there. 

There are other ways to ease this transition for both your child and your nanny.  Start by writing out a schedule to keep daily activities consistent.  Keep in mind that your new nanny may find that slight changes are necessary for their relationship and routine.   

Barbara points out that the best person to teach and transition the arriving nanny is a parent.  Although it may be easier to let your departing nanny train your child’s new caregiver, it is very important that the parent be the one to spend time detailing requirements and expectations, doing so will minimize miscommunication.   

Although this time may seem difficult now, see this transition as a positive change.  Take this time to start off fresh and although your child may miss his caregiver, a new exciting relationship has just begun. 

To find out more about this topic be sure to check out Barbara Kline’s new book coming out May 5, 2005 titled, White House Nannies, published by Pengiun Publishing.  You may also reach Barbara Kline and White House Nannies at 301-654-1242.  

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Michele Spahr is a mother of three, founder of Safe Start Babyproofing, Inc. (www.safestartbabyproofing.com ), member of the International Association for Child Safety, National Safety Council and she is actively involved with the Safe Kids Coalition.

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